Why Must We Complicate Things?

Isn't it funny how with your true friends and even your family at times you can go weeks even months without seeing or talking with them, but the first time you're together it's as if you just saw them yesterday? That's how it is for me with those that I really connect with. When you are truly in tune with someone else their wants, needs, and even their dreams for their life it's easy to just pick up where you left off. Even though friendships and relationships of any nature are delicate and do require work they should not be brain surgery either. You should not have to put more work into it then what you are receiving out of it.

Know that in relationships of any kind that you can only be held responsible for your own actions and decisions. You can not make someone be or do something that they are not ready or willing to do. All you can do is continue to walk in honesty and pray they do the same. Look at their actions and not just the words that they speak. A lot of times people will speak things that will give the appearance of the way the desire for the relationship/friendship to be going. However, their actions can prove to be very different. Always be aware not only of the things they are doing, but take it a step further and pay attention to the things they are NOT doing. This can prove to be both positive and negative in ways.

I don't believe it was intended to be that hard. I think as human beings that carry our own junk around we complicate a lot of things that God intended to be very simple. We are constantly saying to ourselves, "THIS IS TOO EASY SOMETHING MUST BE WRONG!" I know you have caught yourself saying that and if you haven't said it yet, just wait you will. When things go well and smoothly that's when we doubt it. We act as though it can't be from heaven if there was no hell to go through to get there. Am I saying that all your relationships will be easy as pie? NO! I think that we do learn a lot and you will grow and mature by going through the circumstances of life. What I am saying there are enough challenges and struggles that God has already planned for you that you don't have to add to them by making the journey more complicated than it has to be.

Season vs. Forever

Sometimes people are only meant to be in our lives for a season. They may be some of the best people we have ever met and we want them to be there forever, but something happens and they are no longer apart of our lives. It hurts and a lot of the time we don't understand why they are no longer there, but God knows. Some people are meant to be in our lives to help, guide, motivate, or even establish us in one way or another. This is a concept that is usually hard for us as women to grasp, because by nature we are the nurturing type. We want to nurture our relationships so that they blossom and we want to hold to those relationships forever. Even the ones that are not going well we continue to hold on because we hope it will get better.

It is the reason why it seems harder for the mother to let go of her children than it is the father. I think that it is just a difference in how the genders were created. We have a harder time understand the concept of event and season vs. forever. Sometimes we meet that person where there is an instant connection and they are there to help us through a specific event (ex Graduation, Birth of a Child, Break-ups, etc.) and once that event is over they are gone.

Other times there are people that are there to help us through a season of our lives. They are those people like a teacher that takes special interest in you and helps to guide you through your High School/College years. Or they person that shows up to motivate and mentor you through starting the business that you've always dreamed of having. The people that are in our life for a season are the hardest to understand and to cope with once they are gone. Because when someone is in your life for a season they are there long enough for you to become emotionally and spiritually attached to them.

However, we must learn from the lessons that they are there to teach us. Even in the difficult time and through tough situations there are lessons to be learned. This is something that you must grasp in order to move forward in this life. You must remember just like Spring, Summer, Fall, and Winter this too shall past. So remember God wants only the best for you in this life and for that reason he sends you people to join your circle. When some of those people move on don't get upset just know you are one step closer to accomplishing what you are suppose to in this life.